Five Mistakes I've Made in My Relationship

You must be wondering....only FIVE, really? Of course I've made way much more than five, and continue to make them, but I'm working on an improvement plan.

1. How many stars did you get?. Oh, how I crave appreciation and recognition! But my boyfriend isn’t very good at handing out gold stars, and that pisses me off and makes me feel unappreciated. I used to tell myself if I do nice things for him he'll be happy, then I’d be mad when he wasn’t appreciative. Then I figured out a solution, do things for myself, he doesn't have to notice. 

2. Being sarky....it's my super power, hence the title of my blog. I tend to have a smart mouth but my boyfriend doesn’t always like it when I'm too much of a smart.ass (big surprise). I’ve done a lot to try to curb my sarcasm; I bite my tongue then blog about it.

3. Getting pissed about genetics. One of the things I’ve learned is that you can’t change anyone but yourself, and while there are some things I’d love to change about my boyfriend, those things aren’t going to change. He isn’t going to get better about returning calls or texts in a timely matter. So instead of getting pissed, as I often do, I’m trying to remind myself of how small his flaws are, in the scheme of things. 

4. Keeping score.  As much as I wouldn't like to admit... I’m a score-keeper. "Why do I always have to be the one who …?".  Now I remind myself of the thirteeneth commandment...."When one loves, one does not calculate."

 5. I, Sarcastically Yours... take you.... boyfriend for granted (in your best wedding vows voice). It’s easy for me to forget to appreciate his many virtues and instead focus on his flaws (see no. 3). I’m trying to stay focus on all the things I love about him, and let go of my petty annoyances. This my friend, is easier said than done.