Recently a very good friend of mine and his girlfriend ended their decade long relationship. She wanted to get married and according to him, he felt forced into making a such a big and final decision. Really dude? It's only been the last 10 years of your life. You've been sharing your life and living with this woman, you both have a beautiful daughter together, you're practically already married (I know, but not really). Playing house doesn't always work for everyone.
My question to him was...Does signing your name on the dotted line and making it legal really going to change things that much if you're already living the lifestyle? For him the answer was yes....yes to the fact that he' feels pressured into making one of the biggest decision of his life. Maybe if he had asked her before she asked him he wouldn't feel pressured. Does committment scare men that much?
I read a blog recently entitled Why I don't give martial advice, and it opened my eyes to the fact that you have to work at your relationship in your own way. What may work for the Jones's may not work for the Jefferson's. Yeah it's nice to vent to your girls and get their advice, but at the end of the day you're the one that has to go home and make your relationship work.
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